My approach with couples is based on Dr. John Gottman’s research that began in the 1970’s and continues to this day. The research has focused on what makes relationships succeed or fail. From this research, Drs. John and Julie Gottman have created a method of therapy that emphasizes a “nuts-and-bolts” approach to improving your relationship. This method is designed to help teach specific tools to deepen friendship and intimacy in your relationship. To help you productively manage conflicts, you will be given methods to manage resolvable problems and dialogue about gridlocked issues. We will also work together to help you appreciate your relationship’s strengths and to gently navigate through its vulnerabilities. The approach is structured and provides a personalized therapy road map for each couple.

Couple’s treatment begins with a formal or informal assessment. A formal assessment occurs over three sessions. In the first session we will talk about the history of the relationship, areas of concern, and goals for treatment. After the session I will send each of you the Gottman Relationship Checkup which will help us better understand your relationship. In the second session, I will meet with each of you individually to learn your personal histories and to give each of you the opportunity to share thoughts, feelings, and perceptions. In the final session of the assessment, I will share with you my recommendations for treatment and work to define mutually agreed-upon goals for your therapy. Some couples choose to begin treatment after their assessment, whereas other couples prefer an assessment only and then use strategies identified in the assessment to improve their relationship on their own.

An informal assessment is often a better option when the issues that brought the couple to therapy are well defined, uncomplicated and the direction of treatment is clear from the onset. In these cases, treatment usually begins after the first session when the couple and therapist agree on the goals for treatment and what methods will be used to achieve those goals.

The length of therapy will be determined by your specific needs and goals. In the course of therapy, we will establish points at which to evaluate your satisfaction and progress. You will be encouraged to raise any questions or concerns that you have about therapy at any time.